Thoughtfully Fit – Darcy Luoma
At the Society for Marketing Professional Services conference in the Spring of 2022, I’ll be sharing Thoughtfully Fit practices and actionable skills you can immediately apply! In the meantime, you’re invited to sign up for Thoughtfully Fit Tips or to pre-order my book, Thoughtfully Fit. And enjoy the article below to learn more!
I’ve been a coach for almost twenty years and have thousands of hours coaching leaders and teams in forty-eight different industries for more than five hundred organizations.
I started noticing that there are some common problems that get in the way of—and often prevent—leaders and teams from focusing on their work and accomplishing their organization’s mission. Regardless of industry, every team had people problems.
After extensive research, I developed my leadership model, Thoughtfully Fit, to help clear the hurdles caused by those people problems.
When you’re physically fit, all movements are easier. Whether it’s going for a jog or putting your own suitcase in the overhead bin. You’re less likely to get injured, and you’re more prepared to take on any physical challenge that might pop up in your day—like a broken elevator.
In the same way, being Thoughtfully Fit makes life easier, because you’re less likely to do things you regret later on. You handle your people problems thoughtfully, so you can get back to doing what you do best.
What is key to being Thoughtfully Fit? You have to engage your core.
It Always Comes Back to Your Core
There are two parts to the core: control and choice. What do you control? And what choices do you have?
When you encounter challenges, adversity or conflict, it often feels like you have no control or no choices. But in fact, the exact opposite is true. While you don’t control what happens, you always control what happens next. How do you do that?
You engage your core.
Angry customers, the effects of a global pandemic or decisions made by other people at work are all out of your control, but you do control how you respond. And you always have choices in how you respond.
The core is at the heart of being Thoughtfully Fit. The core is where you find the tools and the confidence to handle any people problem that comes your way. It always comes back to control and choices.
The more you engage your core – and focus on what you control and what choices you have – the greater your ability to clear any hurdle. Whatever obstacles come your way, engaging your core can help you respond in an intentional and thoughtful way.
When you’re Thoughtfully Fit, you’ll still have people problems. There will still be difficult employees, challenging team dynamics, and neighbors who cut the lawn at 7am on the Saturday you want to sleep in. But when you’re Thoughtfully Fit, people problems feel easier because you work from your core.
Find the Source of Your Power in 2021
The core is the source of your power. Instead of being a victim, or reacting unconsciously to the situation—likely making it worse—you recognize your choices and you’re in control of what you do next. You are better equipped to handle any challenge that comes your way. That way instead of wasting your time and energy being frustrated by what other people are doing, you can get back to doing what you do best.
There’s so much going on right now that we have no control over. But we’re still 100% in control. When things are out of our control, it’s the perfect time to remember. . .
Focus on Control and Choices
I may not be able to do everything I want right now. But I do control if I focus on the choices I don’t have or the choices I do.
- I choose if I Pause.
- I choose if I Think.
- I choose if I Act thoughtfully.
- I choose if I’m open to influence when I don’t choose correctly.
- I choose if I make my thoughts work for me, not against me.
- I choose if I address my destructive patterns, even when it’s hard.
- I choose if I increase my presence, even when it seems impossible.
- I choose if I listen, even when I totally disagree with the other person.
- I choose if I speak, even when I’m afraid of rocking the boat.
- I choose if I take actions that serve me instead of sabotage me.
- I choose if I keep choosing, even when the choices are less than perfect.
Because if I haven’t found the choice that brings
. . . resolution in my relationships
. . . calm in my thoughts
. . . space for what’s most important
Then I haven’t unlocked all of my choices yet.
I can choose to focus on what I control by training to get Thoughtfully Fit.
You can too!
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